Sunday, January 31, 2016

Shamian Island (Day 10 of our trip)

Sunday we started off with a trip to eat breakfast - seeing a routine in our mornings???
First day for a bow!  Girlfriend can rock a bow headband!

Something new at breakfast and it's called a highchair.  Not a happy camper.
Such a sad face

Realizing that her Daddy would feed her while sitting in that contraption changed her outlook.


 Lily is big on wiping her mouth and hands

After breakfast we headed over to Shamian Island here in Guangzhou.  Shamian Island is a sandbank island in Guangzhou.  The name literally means "sandy surface" in Chinese.  Originally it was an important port for Guangzhou's foreign trade from Song to the Qing Dynasty in the 18th century.  The historical area is a reminder of the colonial European period with tree lined streets filled with shops, restaurants, parks and statues.

Several years ago, it is where adoptive families all stayed and had their medical appointments as well as their consulate appointments.  The US consulate and the medical facility moved to a newer buildings off of Shamian Island so now families stay at various hotels.

It was a rainy day but we still enjoyed walking around and seeing everything.
Almost felt like we were back home in America.  Almost.

I've seen this statue on so many blogs I've read this past year.  It was surreal to actually be there myself.


Daddy rocking the pink and black backpack

At one point it started to rain a little heavier and we were without an umbrella.  The shop owner whom we had bought things from earlier graciously invited us in to sit out the rain.  She began speaking to Lily (in Chinese of course) and asked her how old she was.  Lily replied she was 4!
What's in that store?

Are you coming Daddy?

An afternoon caffeine stop

Statue of an adoptive family

Stopping to get an umbrella for the rest of the day at 7-Eleven.  Full Daddy mode right there!  Who would've thought??

Coke Zero!  After only having some Pepsi lately, this was a welcome sight at lunch!

The restaurant we stopped at had a little bit of everything and we were both wanting something other than Chinese food.  I opted for a quesadilla.  In China.  What was I thinking?  This is the longest I've gone without Mexican food so I was desperate.  It actually wasn't horrible but just bland.  Lily really liked it though.  I hope she isn't scarred into thinking that's how they always taste.  This little girl will be ready for some real Mexican food when we get home!
Love my lunch date!

Each day the three of us spend together, Lily's personality is coming out more and more.  She was great the entire time we were out today and took a good little nap when we got back to the hotel.  The evening was her best: playing, walking around, laughing, interacting with both of us, just happy and content!  Lily was just like a two year old tonight. It warmed our hearts so much to see a peek into our future with our daughter.

Thoughts about Lily:
She is perfect for us.
She has a huge smile and we think maybe dimples.
She still doesn't like baths so we are sticking with sponge baths.
She waves like a princess to people.
She likes french toast, yogurt, orange juice, peanuts, cantaloupe, and water.
She likes to ride in her stroller and go for walks.
She doesn't like her headphones yet.
She likes to get up on the couch in our room and play.
She likes playdough.
She likes to look at books.
She naps for about 1-2 hours each afternoon.
She takes a while to wake up and warm up to you in the mornings.
She likes going out to see and do things.
When she says "Lily", it sounds like "Lolo".

We have now been a family of three for one week.  In one week we have all felt the gamut of emotions.  Our lives are forever changed and we are forever grateful for that!






































Saturday, January 30, 2016

Thoughts for Today (Guangzhou Day 10 of our trip)

When we first started to seriously consider adoption, I admit, I had some doubts.  My husband shared the following quote with me:
He wrote it down on a piece of paper and I still have it hanging right inside my closet at home.

I read that over and over and over each day and thought about opening up my heart to adoption. I needed that to help me make one of the best decisions of my life.

I found out why I was born last week on January 25, 2016:  To be Lily Grace's mommy and for her to be my daughter!  

I am absolutely in love with her and it just keeps growing each day.  I love the times she is awake and learning but there's just something really wonderful about a sleeping baby as well.  Enjoy!
First night with us


The ball close by

Likes to always have socks or shoes on


Shanghai and Guangzhou (Day 8 and 9 of our trip)

We left Shanghai and have now arrived in Guangzhou.  All adoptive families end their trip here as this is where the US Consulate is and we get her visa to come home.  It's much warmer here and the people overall, seem friendlier to me.  It's also nice seeing other families in the hotel who are in the same "boat" as we are.
Lily's favorite way to snuggle her Mommy

Eventful.  That's our current situation.  So many tidbits to share but where to start?  For starters, Michael has not been feeling well the last few days.  Feverish, not hungry, cold chills.  He's been a trooper in not wanting to miss anything though.  Hoping he's better soon.

Showers.  Those are good things.  Great things.  Don't ever take them for granted.  Yesterday, I actually got a shower but no shampoo.  You see, Lily is greatly attached to me so for me to be able to put her down doesn't happen.  Like never.  So, I put her in her stroller and wheeled that baby into the bathroom while I showered with the shower door open.  It worked!  And today got even better...no stroller needed as she just walked around (yes, by herself!) and brought her Daddy toys and played on the Ipad.  So that means I got a shampoo too.  Even a little make up!  Score one for me! 
Yup, already reading! Isn't there a test to skip kinder and go right to first grade???!?!

Our first flight as a family of three: Really great until we went to get off the plane and then it was total meltdown mode for little Lily.  Even though the flight was only a little over 2 hours, we had about a 50 minute drive to the airport, then to wait in line to check bags, through security where everyone is checked with a hand wand, then the loading of the plane, the flight, waiting for the bags, then another 30 minute or so drive to the new hotel.  Needless to say, someone missed her nap and we all (as in the whole airport) paid dearly for it.
Yes, this sweet little one learning to use a spoon can be unbelievably loud!

Today we had Lily's medical appointment. Good thing is that the whole floor where this takes place, now knows that her lungs and voice are healthy.  Just a little screaming during this part!  She was weighed, hearing checked, circumference of head measured and the dreaded TB test. 
Not a fun time

The doctor writing his report

 How pitiful is that??

Good news is that part is over.  It also wore her out so she napped with her Daddy when we got back to the hotel.
One worn out from doctors and one not feeling great

One last story...this morning before leaving for our medical appointment, I ventured out alone with Lily to have breakfast while Michael rested a bit more before leaving in hopes of feeling better.  First time out alone and we traveled all the way up to the 17th floor to the concierge lounge for breakfast.  I mean what could go wrong there?  New mommy, two year old, language barrier...no big deal.

No pictures from breakfast today since I was solo with the little one.  She played a lot with the food, ate cantaloupe and bread and I tried to get some gulps of coffee.  There was a little glass container on the table with sugar and equal packets.  That is until somebody decided to wipe her arm across the table and that was in her path.  So it crashed and shattered on the floor. Nice introduction for us in the new hotel!  Thank you Lily!

Then on the way out, I decided to give her one more piece of cantaloupe for the ride back to the room.  As we approached the elevator and I'm reaching for my hotel key to be able to choose the floor I want, she dropped the cantaloupe on the floor.  Right there with people around and started to whine/cry.  I did the right "Mommy" thing.  I picked it up, brushed off any germs (because that's what you do with germs, just brush them off, right???) and handed it right back to her.  Yup, I'm the Mommy that feeds her new daughter food from the hotel floor.  Never would have imagined that before today.  But one must survive out here in this world called "Parenthood".  Besides, I'm just helping her build her immune system up!




Thursday, January 28, 2016

Shanghai Days 6 and 7 (Wed. and Thurs.)

Yes, we are still here and doing well!  For some reason, adding a little 2 year old to our family interrupts my blogging time - wonder why??

The last 2 days started out about the same - we woke up early before Lily and took turns to shower really quick before she woke up.  To all the mommy's I've seen in the stores wondering why you couldn't do a little more to get ready for the day,  I'm sorry for my thoughts towards you.  I now get it.  I'm now hair pulled back out of my face, comfy clothes (sometimes even clean and free of crumbs!) and a purse full of toys, bottles, cherrios and sippy cups.  If I'm ever caught in an emergency at least I'll have something to drink and a snack!

After Lily wakes up, has a bottle and gets dressed, we head down to the breakfast buffet.  We are finding out what she likes to eat:  rice, turkey, rolls/bread, oatmeal, and her favorite this morning was Shanghai noodles.  Looks like somebody's Daddy is going to have to start adding some new recipes to his cooking.
Toys or fried rice...that's a tough choice!

Mmmm, that's pretty good!

Coffee anyone?  Yes, please!  Make that a double.

Yesterday we went to see the skyline of Shanghai and then to a little market.  It was rainy but good to get out for a bit.  It's so strange seeing such buildings and infrastructure in a major city yet at the same time, they don't have clean water.  By the way, I'm a pro now at brushing my teeth using only bottled water!
First time to "wear" Lily with the baby holder

Family picture in front of the Shanghai skyline

Today (Thursday) we went for about a 45 minute car ride to the orphanage.  We were given the option of taking a tour but we declined as we didn't want to take Lily back inside and create any mixed emotions for her.  We did want to see the front as that was her "finding spot".  She was left outside the gates of the orphanage - literally just abandoned.  Some family made the decision, for whatever reason, that she would be better off being left and being given the opportunity to a new life. One family's tragic story becomes our family's love story.  Their hearts must ache each day and ours are so full. How ironic is that?
The gates into the orphanage.  In Lily's story, it's stated she was found outside the gates.

Looking out from the orphanage

Last time inside those gates for Lily and us

A few words to describe the last few days: wonderful, loving, fun, tiring, exhausting, trying, and at times frustrating.  But most of all - absolutely the best ever!  Nobody ever said being a parent is easy nor adopting a toddler from an orphanage.  Lily is attaching to us more and more each day.  She is definitely attached a bit more to me right now.  Of course, that makes since given the fact that she's only been around females for the past two years. We are making it work - I take care of Lily and Michael is doing all the other things (laundry, getting food, shopping as needed, getting things we need). We know this will begin to shift to more of a balanced plan the farther on this journey we go. Tonight we saw a bit of a change already at dinner. Lily was really interacting with Michael: letting him give her french fries, turkey and napkins (she likes to wipe her hands and mouth as she eats!) and giving things to him.  Baby steps for all of us!

A few thoughts about Lily:
She likes to have her shoes on.  All. The. Time.
She's tiny - wearing usually 18-24 month old clothes.
She is tolerating a quick wipe down with a washcloth. Very quick.
She will point to things she wants.
She will turn her head away from something she doesn't want.
She doesn't like having her teeth brushed.
She doesn't like crumbs on her hands.  Thus, her mommy is full of crumbs!
She likes cherrios, chicken nuggets, fries, noodles, rice, and cookies.
She still drinks several bottles a day. (Probably easier for the orphanage just to go by and give everyone a bottle)
She is learning to use a spoon.
She likes to watch her Daddy.
She uses both hands but tends to use the right hand more often.  Yea! No offense to any lefties out there.
When she doesn't get a nap, the evening can be loud!
She loves snuggling.
She likes to people watch.
She likes to hold one of your fingers when she walks.
She doesn't like to not have clothes on. This makes changing fun!
She loves drinking water out of a sippy cup.
She sleeps about 10 hours a night. Fingers crossed this stays true.
She helps when getting dressed.
She helps to put her toys in my purse when it's time to go.
She loves the little purple ball we brought.
She is a master at stacking/nesting blocks!

Tomorrow is a travel day for us.  We'll leave here around noon and take an afternoon, two hour flight from Shanghai to Guangzhou.  Hopefully we'll still be able to blog from there so you can hear how our first flight went. 

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Appointments, Shanghai Day 5 (Tues. Jan. 26)

Sweet Lily was a champ on Gotcha Day!  I can't even imagine being that young and being taken away from everything and everyone you've ever known.  Yes, there have been some tears but VERY few considering some of the stories we've heard from other people.  

Today started with a morning bottle and lots of cuddles with Mommy and Daddy.  We then tried a bath (insert some tears and screams here) and settled on a quick sponge bath.  Our guide explained to us that in the orphanage they bathe the little ones in a sink so who knows what she thought about the tub!  Later this morning it will be a sponge bath by the sink.
Waking up and snuggling

A morning bottle

After getting dressed, we headed down to the breakfast buffet.  Lily loves to people watch.  She had some cheerios, some oatmeal with honey and some banana nut bread.  She thought all that was pretty good stuff!

We met our guide in the lobby at 9:00 and then we had about a 30 minute ride to get a family picture for the official adoption paperwork.  Nothing fancy, no fancy photographer.  Just a small camera shop where we went in a back room, sat on a little bench as a family and a man took our picture.  He uploaded it and printed it out.  We were then off to the Shanghai City Bureau of Social Welfare Affairs office.  This is where we completed the adoption registration.  Last stop for the day was the notary to get all the paperwork from the last two days notarized.

Lily Grace Wilson is now officially ours and we are her parents.  Happy, happy day!


We came back to the hotel, napped a little and later went to the concierge lounge - another reason I love being Marriott elite!  A glass of wine for the new mommy and cantaloupe for Lily!  It was here that we got our first laughs and smiles and we were just beyond excited.  As a stranger mentioned to us as he left the table where we were sitting:  "Congratulations to all of you.  You all are just beaming."
First smiles and giggles


Then at night, I woke up and this was my view.  My world right in front of me! 

Sunday, January 24, 2016

Gotcha Day, Part 2

Introducing our family of three...

The moment we've been waiting on.  We are now a complete family of three.  The love I already felt for Lily just skyrocketed the moment I saw her.  She is absolutely perfect and we both love her immensely. 

Seeing each other for the first time

Cheerios helped A LOT!

 Our first selfie!  In the car, on the way back to the hotel.  There are no seat belts and they don't use car seats here so we all held on tight!

 Getting sleepy on the 40 minute ride back to the hotel

 Dozing off while Daddy holds her

Holding on tight to the sucker we gave her!

Riding in the elevator up to the 33rd floor to our room

 Coat removed and having some apple juice

 Loves to hold things in her hands

Daddy started the apple juice while Mommy got the bottle ready.  I had to find and figure out how to heat the water with our "hot pot" in our room.

 Pants and sweater off to the jammies she had on and having her bottle before her nap.

Napping. Sweet, precious Lily Grace!

It's been an emotional day for all of us.  Our hearts are just so full! We are off to enjoy our daughter!